20 Resolutions for Your Tongue
Sunday's sermon was on James 3:1-12, "The Faith that Speaks." (You can listen to or watch it by clicking here). In a nut shell, James shows us the power of words (to direct or devastate), our inability to control them, and our only hope in the God who can change our hearts. At the end of the sermon I gave 4 steps for us to walk in so we can put this Scripture into practice:
- Reflect on your words. - Examine how you use your words and who you've hurt.
- Repent of your sins. - Apologize to people and confess to God.
- Renew your heart. - Only Christ can renew your heart; ask the Holy Spirit to increase your love for Jesus, your longing for holiness, and your control of your tongue.
- Resolve to resist sin and speak life. - The greatest work is what's done in your heart, but it doesn't mean we don't make an effort as well.
According to James, this would be a lot easier than taming the tongue.
The battle of our words is a battle for our heart! We must take practical steps to outwardly change what we trust God is changing inwardly! For help in that fourth step I turn to Pastor Sinclair Ferguson who has put together a list of 20 Resolutions on the Use of the Tongue from the entirety of the book of James (because James talked about our words and how we should use them, a lot!). I encourage you to read these resolutions, the scripture they come from, and then pick 2-3 that you want to work on, even as God is at work in you.
20 Resolution on the Use of the Tongue from James by Sinclair Ferguson 
1) Resolved: To ask God for wisdom to speak and to do so with a single mind. “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. . . . in faith with no doubting. . . . For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything . . . he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways” (James 1:5–8).
2) Resolved: To boast only in my exaltation in Christ or my humiliation in the world. “Let the lowly brother boast in his exaltation, and the rich in his humiliation, because like a flower of the grass he will pass away” (James 1:9–10).
3) Resolved: To set a watch over my mouth. “Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God,’ for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one” (James 1:13).
4) Resolved: To be constantly quick to hear, slow to speak. “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19).
5) Resolved: To learn the gospel way of speaking to the poor and the rich. “My brothers, show no partiality as you hold the faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory. For if a man wearing a gold ring and fine clothing comes into your assembly, and a poor man in shabby clothing also comes in, and if you pay attention to the one who wears the fine clothing and say, ‘You sit here in a good place,’ while you say to the poor man, ‘You stand over there,’ or, ‘Sit down at my feet,’ have you not then made distinctions among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?” (James 2:1–4).
6) Resolved: To speak in the consciousness of the final judgment. “So speak and so act as those who are to be judged under the law of liberty” (James 2:12).
7) Resolved: To never stand on anyone’s face with words that demean, despise, or cause despair. “If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, ‘Go in peace, be warmed and filled’ without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that?” (James 2:15–16).
8) Resolved: To never claim a reality I do not experience. “If you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth” (James 3:14).
9) Resolved: To resist quarrelsome words as marks of a bad heart. “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?” (James 4:1).
10) Resolved: To never speak evil of another. “Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge” (James 4:11).
11) Resolved: To never boast in what I will accomplish. “Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit’ — yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes” (James 4:13).
12) Resolved: To always speak as one who is subject to the providences of God. “Instead you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that’” (James 4:15).
13) Resolved: To never grumble, knowing that the Judge is at the door. “Do not grumble against one another, brothers, so that you may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing at the door” (James 5:9).
14) Resolved: To never allow anything but total integrity in my speech. “But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your ‘yes’ be yes and your ‘no’ be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation” (James 5:12).
15) Resolved: To speak to God in prayer whenever I suffer. “Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray” (James 5:13).
16) Resolved: To sing praises to God whenever I am cheerful. “Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise” (James 5:13).
17) Resolved: To ask for the prayers of others when I am sick. “Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord” (James 5:14).
18) Resolved: To confess it whenever I have failed. “Therefore, confess your sins to one another” (James 5:16).
19) Resolved: To pray for one another when I am together with others in need. “Pray for one another, that you may be healed” (James 5:16).
20) Resolved: To speak words of restoration when I see another wander. “My brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back, let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins” (James 5:19–20).